This really resonates with me. I have twins that turn two in a little over a week and this has been a real journey in finding myself in motherhood. I’d heard the term matrescence from someone early on, but i didn’t delve deeply into it. I really wanted to be a mother, but I did not have any inkling how much it was going to change me and my life (0 kids to 2 kids at once didn’t help).
I’ve found that I really have to take time for myself. Even an hour or two here and there. My kids have a pretty reliable sleep schedule (right now) and aren’t currently sick, so I get up an hour earlier than everyone to drink my coffee and read. They still nap and I use their nap time to write (when I’m not doing other necessary things).
Also, being a parent means that really core things that are important to me are distilled because I have such limited time outside of my kids.
Twins! How awesome but also I can imagine how much work that would be. So important to take time for yourself but hard to do some days when they are little but it gets better. Thanks for sharing
This really resonates with me. I have twins that turn two in a little over a week and this has been a real journey in finding myself in motherhood. I’d heard the term matrescence from someone early on, but i didn’t delve deeply into it. I really wanted to be a mother, but I did not have any inkling how much it was going to change me and my life (0 kids to 2 kids at once didn’t help).
I’ve found that I really have to take time for myself. Even an hour or two here and there. My kids have a pretty reliable sleep schedule (right now) and aren’t currently sick, so I get up an hour earlier than everyone to drink my coffee and read. They still nap and I use their nap time to write (when I’m not doing other necessary things).
Also, being a parent means that really core things that are important to me are distilled because I have such limited time outside of my kids.
Twins! How awesome but also I can imagine how much work that would be. So important to take time for yourself but hard to do some days when they are little but it gets better. Thanks for sharing
'Matrescence' is a beautiful word (I learned it right from your article!).
I'm not a mother, but it always strikes me when parents say that their kids are forever part of them. It must indeed be life-changing.
Feeling grateful that my mother took care of me, and that I was able to grow well :')
Great writing. If You were my mum, I would be very proud. Keep writing and all the best.